Real, faithful marriage heals
I am a believer in true marriage. I can't say I do much of anything to "advocate" for it, besides living out my own marriage vows as faithfully as I can, and raising my kids to see what marriage is, and what it should be.
I do this out of love, not hate or anger towards anyone else.
This was brought home to me recently when I came across a song by American Idol winner, Kelly Clarkson, one she wrote herself. In it, she heartbreakingly chronicles her wounded childhood, having her father run out on her and her mom. The song has a note of deep hope, in that she sees her own husband loving their children in a way children deserve. But one can not get through it without crying. I defy you.
As I watched it, tears running down my face -- and hers, and the judges -- I thought, this, this is why I believe in true marriage, for life. That woman deserved a stable childhood with both of her parents, and without it, she has been badly hurt and broken. Meanwhile, the thing that is healing her heart is being married to a man who is faithful to her.
Real, faithful marriage heals.
That is what all children deserve. Don't be fooled, the victims in the "marriage debate" are always and forever the children.
{That is why I am determined to get my hands on Leila Miller's latest book -- in it she chronicle how adult children raised in divorced households still nurse unspeakable pain.}
Without further ado,
Kelly Clarkson's "Piece by Piece."
I do this out of love, not hate or anger towards anyone else.
This was brought home to me recently when I came across a song by American Idol winner, Kelly Clarkson, one she wrote herself. In it, she heartbreakingly chronicles her wounded childhood, having her father run out on her and her mom. The song has a note of deep hope, in that she sees her own husband loving their children in a way children deserve. But one can not get through it without crying. I defy you.
As I watched it, tears running down my face -- and hers, and the judges -- I thought, this, this is why I believe in true marriage, for life. That woman deserved a stable childhood with both of her parents, and without it, she has been badly hurt and broken. Meanwhile, the thing that is healing her heart is being married to a man who is faithful to her.
Real, faithful marriage heals.
That is what all children deserve. Don't be fooled, the victims in the "marriage debate" are always and forever the children.
{That is why I am determined to get my hands on Leila Miller's latest book -- in it she chronicle how adult children raised in divorced households still nurse unspeakable pain.}
Without further ado,
Kelly Clarkson's "Piece by Piece."
Tears. Tears. Tears. And look how it resonated with that audience.
ReplyDeleteI know, exactly. I always am so touched by Keith Urban's reaction (the judge), because he can't help himself from crying.
DeleteI am reading the book right now,Jenna,and will pass it to you when we move up there in 2 weeks. I am having difficulty with the book myself as I can't really relate to any of the people who have responded in the book and I conclude that it is because I have repressed much of what my parents' divorce did to me.
ReplyDeleteThank you for offering to loan it to me.
DeleteI wonder if your reaction to it is common; I was surprised how Leila Miller described each contributor's strong and painful reaction, even in adulthood. That didn't seem to fit with what I had observed from children of divorce, but perhaps I haven't been paying close enough attention. Or perhaps, as you say, these adult children of divorce have repressed some of the pain.